An Exercise In Loving Yourself


More good stuff on the topic of healing. Here’s a useful exercise in learning how to love yourself:

Imagine all of the things that you say to yourself that are negative: “You’re too fat.”, or “That part sags.”, or how about “You’re a failure and you’ll never amount to anything.” Any of those ring a bell? If not, keep thinking … I’m sure you’ll think of something.

Now think of the one person that you love more than anybody else in the world … it could be your spouse/lover, or a parent, or your son or daughter, or a brother or sister. Imagine saying those things that you say to yourself … to that person you love so dearly … with the same regularity. Are you horrified yet?? You would never call the person you love up on the phone to tell them how ugly they are … or how much of a failure they are. Why? Because you love them … you want to nurture, protect, and care for them!

But that’s what we do to ourselves. How can we truly say that we love ourselves if we treat our own tender souls that way?? You wouldn’t even treat someone you HATE that badly!

So this is the challenge: every time you say one of those hateful things to yourself … STOP. Repeat the mantra,

“You are loved, you are beautiful … I love you, I think you are beautiful.”

You will be amazed how often you need to stop and repeat this to yourself.

We cannot truly say that we love ourselves, unless we are treating ourselves the way we would treat the one we love most.

If we cannot love ourselves, then we will never heal … or be able to be used by God to bring healing into the world.
Religion4All is an idea: that every human being (no matter their race, religion, sexuality, social status, lifestyle, or any other possible factor) is LOVED by God; just … as … they are.

We all are loved by God, and NO religion or person has a monopoly on it. Every single person on this planet is loved equally by God … SO many are cut off from God because they are told they don’t belong. God loves everyone … we ALL are beautiful creations … we don’t need to cringe when we hear the words “God”, or “religion”, or their judgments … God LOVES us all!

There is no requirement to change in order to be LOVED by God, or to LOVE God. God is LOVE, and LOVE is God … period. There is no one who God loves more than anyone else … there are only those who choose to LOVE more … to love God more, and consequently then to love each other more. In doing so, we grow closer to God … and know God.

By opening our hearts, and minds to God (free of boundaries like religion, or social trends); by LOVING God … we are exactly where we are meant to be. If we maintain that openness, never allowing any person or event to make us close our hearts, we will be guided by God to be who we are meant to be.

In that space of openness we can then live a life of LOVE, and be guided to where we are meant to be … forever in LOVE.

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  Kristel wrote @

I can totally relate to this post. I’m usually very hard on myself. Beautiful post. 🙂

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