Unconditional Love can only exist in a non-reactionary state.

Too often Love is construed or mistaken for how we react to another person. Someone we have positive feelings for gives us a gift, and so we have a warmth that glows within us. Someone we have passion for caresses and kisses us, and so a fire consumes us. This is not Love … not in the truest sense; that being Unconditional Love.  This is merely a reaction to someone else’s action. When your heart’s foundation is based in reactionary love?  Whatever relationship you have will eventually either cease to exist or be rewarding.

Here’s an example:

As an artist (that being someone in the world of art, not necessarily a painter) I find that I am more prone to grandiose statements or actions.  I feel more (or at least I think I do) and since I also communicate my feelings for a living, I communicate all those feelings … sometimes without much of a filter (lol).  In some ways this is what many find charming about artistic/sensitive people … and in other ways, it is what people find threatening.  There is a flip side to every coin.

So today I made a statement that was, for me, simply a statement of fact … a reflection of the Love that is within me. The other person’s reaction was dismissive. Given the wide-open state of my heart in saying what I had said, my immediate reaction was to stiffen internally … somewhat akin to the reaction one would have after being slapped, except I don’t believe I had any outward reaction at the time.  What I really wanted to do was just get away … go somewhere (preferably away from this person) where I could meditate and sort through what had just happened and my feelings about it. For the next half hour or so I was somewhat cool and withdrawn, and my heart CERTAINLY was not wide open any longer.

This is an example of reactionary love.  I closed my heart, and in doing so I stopped the flow of Love to this other person … and I ALSO closed off the original flow of Love coming to me.  That is what happens when you choose to close your heart … you are closing yourself to God’s Love.

During that half hour I deliberated. Had I taken things too far, or expressed too much. Perhaps I should measure out my Love, and be more reserved with it … because this other person obviously felt uncomfortable with certain aspects of it. Perhaps I was supposed to mirror their aloofness, so that they wouldn’t feel uncomfortable (and so I wouldn’t get that kind of treatment again). After I let that business of my mind fall away I was able to slip into a more meditative place … a place where I can hear and listen what God has to say to me.  This is what God said:

“You are not supposed to shut yourself down, or close yourself off.  You are supposed to love unconditionally; this means ALWAYS loving to your utmost. There are no exceptions to this … you don’t get to have a safety net that is comprised of the other person’s promises, or actions. You simply Love unconditionally, all the time, no matter what they do or say … and that’s it. Whatever they do … is up to them and has no bearing on the state of your Love.  That IS what Unconditional Love IS … there is no other kind of Love.”

A sense of Divine peace washed through me and so I went through what has become a daily practice for me. First, I acknowledge whatever it was that happened. Second, I allow that event to be … I let go of trying to fight against it. Thirdly, I accept whatever happened as something that is now in the past … and therefore something that can no longer be changed. Lastly, after having acknowledge, allowed, and accepted this event … I let it go. Once I have done this I am left with my True Self, who I am outside of reacting to whatever the event may be.

Having taken this course of action, I was simply able to move forward as my True Self … and that person is someone with an open heart, who gives Love freely. So after that half an hour of withdrawal, I simply went back to expressing my Love freely. I didn’t even need to have a conversation with the other person … in a sense that is a condition … a condition that things must be worked through satisfactorally for me to move forward with an open heart again.  No, I just let it go … I opened my heart wide open, and continued to allow the flow of Love to move through me freely.

That is an example of Unconditional Love. It took me a little bit of time to get there, but the end result is all that matters. Sometimes it can be difficult, and this is usually in direct reaction to the depth of your feelings to whatever the person, or scenario is.  The important thing is to focus on keeping your heart open … if your heart gets closed, that is ALL on you. Your closed heart is not the other person’s responsibility, no matter what it is that they have done … only you can keep your heart open.

Had I not taken this series of actions, I would most likely have had a closed heart for the entire day. I may have grown resentful and held on to that hurt feeling until such a time where I could express it … in such a scenario, the likelihood would be that such an occasion would not conclude positively. A closed heart acting in a reactionary way is never going to result in the other person having an open heart … negative does not beget positive. Love is the only force that produces Love … if what you want is Love?  Well, you’d better look at the conditions you are basing that on … and let go of them. If there are conditions what you have is not really Love (with a capital L).

Peace and Love.

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– This post is an addendum to a prior post, “Unconditional Love!”.

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Religion4All is an idea: that every human being (no matter their race, religion, sexuality, social status, lifestyle, or any other possible factor) is LOVED by God; just … as … they are.

We all are loved by God, and NO religion or person has a monopoly on it. Every single person on this planet is loved equally by God … SO many are cut off from God because they are told they don’t belong. God loves everyone … we ALL are beautiful creations … we don’t need to cringe when we hear the words “God”, or “religion”, or their judgments … God LOVES us all!

There is no requirement to change in order to be LOVED by God, or to LOVE God. God is LOVE, and LOVE is God … period. There is no one who God loves more than anyone else … there are only those who choose to LOVE more … to love God more, and consequently then to love each other more. In doing so, we grow closer to God … and know God.

By opening our hearts, and minds to God (free of boundaries like religion, or social trends); by LOVING God … we are exactly where we are meant to be. If we maintain that openness, never allowing any person or event to make us close our hearts, we will be guided by God to be who we are meant to be.

In that space of openness we can then live a life of LOVE, and be guided to where we are meant to be … forever in LOVE.

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