Change Effects Change


Change effects Change … as in exterior events (change) cause you to make decisions in your life, thus change that is effected.  We CONTROL our own change … we cannot control the exterior events, but we CAN control our own actions … how we react to that change.

I can look back over my life in the past few years and really witness this in great detail.  There was a long period of my life where I basically reacted to exterior events bringing change into my life in a smattering of peripheral ways … topical treatments to either soothe momentarily, or make me forget until the next bout of change came along.  Alcohol, sometimes drugs, relationships, sometimes not relationships but just simply sex, work, poetry, art, singing, writing, composing, the list goes on a bit longer.  Some of these things were positive in ways, and others were VERY negative.  The point is that I was using them in reaction to the exterior change happening in my life; things that were out of my control … as a way to make me feel as if I was IN control.  When, in fact, I was not in control at all … it’s all a grand charade of fooling ourselves.

This all changed for me a few years ago.  I still was using these tactics to make me feel as if I was in control … but they just weren’t working like they had before.  I could either engage in them to a larger extreme (which is a rather frightening thought), or I could find new coping mechanisms … OR I could do what I did: meditate … connect with God.

I had been meditating all along, but only very sporadically … when I really NEEDED it … so, like, once or twice a month.

Something happened though … I began to see that the change I created in myself through meditation … through connecting with God to resolve the internal problems brought about by exterior change in my life … began to be the only way that I could get truly meaningful change to occur in my life at large.  Change within me that made me happy.  Change underneath all the masks I had acquired that made me start throwing the masks away.

The more I meditated, the more free I became of all these devices I had been using to “protect” myself … that were really harming me more.  I allowed the exterior changes in my life to start knocking down the walls and inner blocks I had created … I accepted the change, and instead of running from it I went within and just meditated … to work through what was brought up by those external changes that were out of my control.  I opened myself up … I exhumed all of the crap that had accumulated by dumping topical treatments on top of unresolved inner issues.

Now here I am a few years later … after I enacted those changes in my life toward how I dealt or coped with change … and my life looks completely different.  I am happy.  I feel free … and the things that seemed like distant dreams or aspirations are beginning to take form and blossom.  If I had stayed on the path I was on … well, I would be in a VERY different place.  I am fairly certain that it would not be a happy place … my coping mechanisms had never brought this kind of happiness before.  It was only momentary; fleeting … this is solid and permanent; a way of life.

So, in essence, I changed my tactics … I changed my reactions to the external changes I could not control.  We all have this ability … we can let go, or we can cling for dear life.  We can open our hearts, which feels vulnerable, or we can keep that portal slammed shut.  We can connect to our Maker at ANY time, to deal with ANY problem … we CAN do that … or we can throw topical treatments at things until your simply drowning in your own swamp of unresolved issues.

It’s up to you though … YOU HAVE THAT POWER.

Peace and Love.


pic from the movie xXx. I am going through old posts and reliving/learning from them anew. This post was originally posted here Change Effects Change.


Religion4All is an idea: that every human being (no matter their race, religion, sexuality, social status,lifestyle, or any other possible factor) is LOVED by God; just … as … they are.

We all are loved by God, and NO religion or person has a monopoly on it. Every single person on this planet is loved equally by God … SO many are cut off from God because they are told they don’t belong. God loves everyone … we ALL are beautiful creations … we don’t need to cringe when we hear the words “God”, or “religion”, or their judgments … God LOVES us all!

There is no requirement to change in order to be LOVED by God, or to LOVE God. God is LOVE, and LOVE is God … period. There is no one who God loves more than anyone else … there are only those who choose to LOVE more … to love God more, and consequently then to love each other more. In doing so, we grow closer to God … and know God.

By opening our hearts, and minds to God (free of boundaries like religion, or social trends); by LOVING God … we are exactly where we are meant to be. If we maintain that openness, never allowing any person or event to make us close our hearts, we will be guided by God to be who we are meant to be.

In that space of openness we can then live a life of LOVE, and be guided to where we are meant to be … forever in LOVE.

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