The Sum Of Our Parts

personal history puzzle

We are all the sum of our parts … those being experiences had (good and bad), and decisions made (good and bad).

There is no other person in the entire universe who actually knows how things occur uniquely for you … nobody. None of them have your experiences … so when something happens to them they are triggered back to their own unique emotional responses based on their own set of experiences, memories, and decisions. You and your set of emotional reactions to the world spinning around you … are completely unique and literally not knowable to anyone else.

Kind of makes you feel lonely to think about. In thinking on this deeper however it actually gives me hope, and understanding, and forgiveness.

In my own life I was taken back to the first person who broke my heart. I vilified this person for years and made them into a complete monster. That former love had no clue, however, what was being triggered in me by the lies, deception, and severing of our bond. For me it took me back to a childhood full of abuse, the death of my mother, rejection by my father, etc. I was a quasi-suicidal teenager … I’m also living proof that it very literally DOES get better. Each and every year that goes by gets better and better … life is is a beautiful and tragic miracle and through all that pressure, pounding, sculpting and polishing … it really can turn into a beautiful gem. So if you are in such a place … don’t give up hope. Keep living, and striving, and learning how to live with your heart wide open … life will get better.

Back to my earlier point … that person who broke my heart? The place that I was transported to by their rejection and deception was completely unique to me. There was no possible way anyone could have known the horrors of that place. That person did not do THAT to me … because they didn’t even know those levels of pain could exist, most likely.  I now look back and can literally see the whole scenario as a few mistakes that were made … mistakes that I very easily could have or could make in my own life. I can see that now and forgive them … LOVE them even. That person wasn’t a monster … they were just flailing around trying to find a way to stay afloat.

The same is true for everywhere we go in life. Every person you come across throughout your day is a unique universe unto themselves of emotional triggers that take them back to places within them unknown to anyone else around them.

This is why LOVE is the only way to be … LOVE is the only source that translates to every person. True love … unconditional love … LOVE freely given from an open heart. It gets through that mine-field of personal travesties and recollections and touches people at their core. To live any other way … is to simply be setting off chain reactions of other people’s personal histories all around you, everywhere you go.

You really do change the world … but it is up to you to decide how you want to do that. All you have to do is LOVE, and you will be a success … a beautiful, stunning, dazzling success of a person … nothing else is needed, or even important. Stay open, and never close … become a conduit of Love … and life will miraculously transform around you.


Religion4All is an idea: that every human being (no matter their race, religion, sexuality, social status, lifestyle, or any other possible factor) is LOVED by God; just … as … they are.

We all are loved by God, and NO religion or person has a monopoly on it. Every single person on this planet is loved equally by God … SO many are cut off from God because they are told they don’t belong. God loves everyone … we ALL are beautiful creations … we don’t need to cringe when we hear the words “God”, or “religion”, or their judgments … God LOVES us all!

There is no requirement to change in order to be LOVED by God, or to LOVE God. God is LOVE, and LOVE is God … period. There is no one who God loves more than anyone else … there are only those who choose to LOVE more … to love God more, and consequently then to love each other more. In doing so, we grow closer to God … and know God.

By opening our hearts, and minds to God (free of boundaries like religion, or social trends); by LOVING God … we are exactly where we are meant to be. If we maintain that openness, never allowing any person or event to make us close our hearts, we will be guided by God to be who we are meant to be.

In that space of openness we can then live a life of LOVE, and be guided to where we are meant to be … forever in LOVE.

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