You Can Only Forgive That Which You Face


I’ve been kind of amazed of late how MANY things linger around in that dusty attic we call our subconscious. I’ve been consciously going deep within and digging things up and it really is amazing the stuff that I find still unresolved within!

My opinion is that a lot of this is cultural. By and large we live in a culture that downplays the negative … we just don’t want to dwell on it. Someone talks about being abused and people cringe and uncomfortably comment,

“That’s in the past. Talking about it won’t help anything, just move on.” etc., etc., etc.

People don’t want to face the things that are uncomfortable, scary, or disturbing.

The problem with this is that ALL of that stuff is just hanging out in your subconscious! How’s your dream life? Do you have dreams that disturb you? Welcome to the window of your subconscious, where everything you’ve shoved down and left emotionally unresolved just hangs out and plays … and your body ultimately pays the price as its playground. The tension and stress from bitterness, regrets, and not fully forgiving literally eat you alive.

I’m not saying you should wallow around in all that crap … wallowing is very different from resolving and forgiving. It MIGHT be a good idea though to actively go in and discover what is there. Find out WHAT is eating you alive, so that you can actually save yourself from that gnawing beast within you.

An example, I was constantly told that I should get over having been abused my step-mother. Whatever the reason, whether “For the good of the family.” or just because it makes them uncomfortable … what that REALLY is saying is,

“Shut up, I don’t want to hear about it. Just stop talking about it and move on.” Or, in other words, “Shove it down deep inside of you and never bring it up again.”

By consciously going within to meditate and contemplate the full reality of what was SO … I have been able to forgive her. I can actually now look at the scenario and see exactly HOW she was a victim herself, just trying to survive like the rest of us. I didn’t downplay the abuse … there were some seriously messed up things that she did that affected me for decades. I accepted those things … I allowed them to be … I stopped fighting against them, excusing them or trying to escape them by shoving them down.

They simply were what was so … just the facts, without emotion.

Along with those facts were all the things that I did, and all of the things that other people contributed, and what was going on in life and the world … just the facts, without emotion.

Don’t downplay them … don’t shove them down. Allow them to be what they actually were … and face them … and then let them go … forgive. You can’t get to that last part though, forgiveness, without actually facing what is so. The more you diminish what was so, the more you allow whatever bitterness is there to creep inside you and fester.

Open it up … face it … and THEN let it go through genuine forgiveness and the power of Love.

Keep open that void where all that unresolved and festering ichor once resided and allow God’s LOVE to fill it instead. Let the golden glow of love into that place, and be happy. Rest.

Peace and Love.


– pic shared from Lost At E Minor, from Yayoi Kusama’s Infinity Mirrored Room


Religion4All is an idea: that every human being (no matter their race, religion, sexuality, social status, lifestyle, or any other possible factor) is LOVED by God; just … as … they are.

We all are loved by God, and NO religion or person has a monopoly on it. Every single person on this planet is loved equally by God … SO many are cut off from God because they are told they don’t belong. God loves everyone … we ALL are beautiful creations … we don’t need to cringe when we hear the words “God”, or “religion”, or their judgments … God LOVES us all!

There is no requirement to change in order to be LOVED by God, or to LOVE God. God is LOVE, and LOVE is God … period. There is no one who God loves more than anyone else … there are only those who choose to LOVE more … to love God more, and consequently then to love each other more. In doing so, we grow closer to God … and know God.

By opening our hearts, and minds to God (free of boundaries like religion, or social trends); by LOVING God … we are exactly where we are meant to be. If we maintain that openness, never allowing any person or event to make us close our hearts, we will be guided by God to be who we are meant to be.

In that space of openness we can then live a life of LOVE, and be guided to where we are meant to be … forever in LOVE.

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