The Comfort of Control


It’s so much easier to feel connected to God when things are going well. Have you ever wondered why that is?

This was the subject of my meditation time today and I discovered some interesting things.

For me, the most intimate connection I have with God is when I have taken the time to ground and center myself. I open my heart chakra and make myself completely vulnerable … and I allow the Spirit to just fill me up. Then I proceed into what usually is an hour long meditation time where I am basking in that, and asking questions, and listening for answers, sometimes laughing, sometimes crying, and opening myself more and more internally so that God can then fill those places as well.

This is what spending time with God means to me.

In looking at the opposite, the times where I feel distant from God, I discovered that the REAL reason for it is really all based in MY decisions. Sure, it is stressful when finances disappear, or you get blindsided by a catastrophe, or perhaps it’s just one of those days where something isn’t quite aligned and you pay the price.

In all of these situations though, I am the one who closes my heart. I am the one who severs that sacred cord of connectivity that flows from my heart to God and back again.

Those blindsides seem to cause almost a knee-jerk reaction … like you don’t even have time to make a decision! I will bet though that somewhere along the line there was a conscious decision. The initial closing of the heart might have been a knee-jerk reaction … but KEEPING it closed is the conscious aspect. We don’t want to let go of the precious control we feel we have (but actually do not). We want to comfort ourselves with food, or relationships, or going out and getting more money, or addictive behaviors. Those are the conscious choices.

Try it out just once … don’t take it on as a “should” to take on for your whole life. Just once, when you feel blindsided or in despair and you want to turn to those things that are your adult “security blanket” … stop yourself. Take fifteen minutes to open your heart back up and allow God to fill that space … let go of the control you think you have, or at least want.

Then, if you still want that cheeseburger, or cocktail, or more work to get more money, or an ogle of admiration … go get it. Just notice the difference … see if there is one after having taken some time to open your heart back up. There’s nothing wrong with some of these things we use to comfort ourselves … it’s the reason that we use them.


Religion4All is an idea: that every human being (no matter their race, religion, sexuality, social status, lifestyle, or any other possible factor) is LOVED by God; just … as … they are.

We all are loved by God, and NO religion or person has a monopoly on it. Every single person on this planet is loved equally by God … SO many are cut off from God because they are told they don’t belong. God loves everyone … we ALL are beautiful creations … we don’t need to cringe when we hear the words “God”, or “religion”, or their judgments … God LOVES us all!

There is no requirement to change in order to be LOVED by God, or to LOVE God. God is LOVE, and LOVE is God … period. There is no one who God loves more than anyone else … there are only those who choose to LOVE more … to love God more, and consequently then to love each other more. In doing so, we grow closer to God … and know God.

By opening our hearts, and minds to God (free of boundaries like religion, or social trends); by LOVING God … we are exactly where we are meant to be. If we maintain that openness, never allowing any person or event to make us close our hearts, we will be guided by God to be who we are meant to be.

In that space of openness we can then live a life of LOVE, and be guided to where we are meant to be … forever in LOVE.

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